The past week and a half has been atrocious.
– My mother in-law came to visit us and received the news that her father died while I was driving her to the airport. It is seriously the most shocking death to everyone. This man was so healthy… I still can’t believe he is gone. And my dear husband loved him so much… we all did.
– We stressed for 4 days waiting for our flight to get out here to help out and get ready for services.
– The day after we got here my husband was having extreme stomach pain. I have never seen him like that.
– We spent the next 24 hours in the emergency room where we learned Kyle had appendicitis and he had to have emergency surgery.
– The hospital realized they had no room for us so we had to be transferred. This resulted in being taken by two extremely young girls driving the ambulance. They had to use google to find out how the heck to get the other hospital in town. Irritation to the highest degree.
– I then watch my husband lay in pain while we had to WAIT IN THE HALLWAY because there was no room at that hospital either. Fun times.
– Finally a 6 am surgery. Zero sleep. Worried wife. Enough said.
– Apart from my hubby being asleep for surgery, we pretty much made it 36+ hours with zero sleep. We both only dozed for a few minutes at a time.
– The next day after surgery I watched my husband help carry his grandfather’s casket to the grave site. Extremely heartbreaking to see but also terrifying because he wasn’t even supposed to lift our daughter. He was adamant though.
– Obviously the burial was terribly hard.
– We spent the next day making memorial boards for Saturday’s service. Heart wrenching is an understatement. The last picture posted on it was of Lacey in her great grandfather’s logging truck. He was a very well-known and respected logger up here in Northern Cali. His truck was his pride and joy. He also would have loved to see his great granddaughter pretending to drive his truck. I could hear his laugh now.
– Saturday was hard but so nice to hear so many stories about how respected this man was. One logger even got up to share how when he started logging he would watch Kyle’s grandpa Rodger in awe because he was everyone’s career goal. Everyone wanted to be like him. Well, one day Rodger waved to the newbie, and he just thought “Oh my god, Rodger Tolman just waved to me!” I think that was my favorite story. I knew he was great at what he did but I didn’t know that it was to the extent of him being practically a celebrity in the business! We heard so many more similar stories that brought a lot of laughter. With great happiness from the stories about the great life he led, also comes great sadness that we wont have the pleasure of creating any more memories with him.
– All of the loggers that have been in Rodger’s life showed up at the service and drove their trucks by the mortuary honking to pay respect to their dear friend. Chills and not a dry eye around. At least 30 trucks were there.
– After the service, we headed up to a vineyard that was owned by his best friend’s son. By far, the most BEAUTIFUL place I have EVER seen. Such a wonderful place to celebrate his life. He would have been proud!
– This man will be missed dearly. This year the holidays will be rough. We will miss him walking into the house asking where breakfast is and saying that everyone better have their asses out of bed. Then proceeding to kick everyone’s butts in a few games of dice.
“You will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” – Dr. Seuss
Our little girl has been a champ this week. Going with the flow and doing her best cute act (which isn’t hard for her) to cheer everyone up. Unfortunately, as if this week wasn’t bad enough, she got a doozy of a cold. She has had a stuffy nose before but never a cold. My heart breaks for her. As frustrated as she gets, she still manages to get happy and have fun!
Hug your loved ones and tell them you love them often. You just never know what the future holds.
We will be out here a bit longer so I might still be MIA for a bit. Hopefully next time you hear from me I will have a December Activity packet to reveal. Hopefully…..